You know more about nervous system regulation than most people in your life. You reflect before reacting — most of the time. You've done the work, read the books, sat with the hard questions about who you want to be as a parent.

And yet you snapped at someone you love yesterday over something genuinely insignificant. And yet you're tired in a way that sleep doesn't fix. And yet there's a low-level resentment that has no clear address, no matter how many times you try to work out where it belongs.

You've been calling it a tough season.

The question worth sitting with is: how long have you been calling it that?

What's actually happening has a name. It's accommodation — the stage of the Mother Awakening Cycle where a capable, committed mother quietly stretches herself to meet endless demand, without ever genuinely recovering. It looks like competence from the outside. It feels like slow collapse from the inside. And the cruellest part? The skills that make you a thoughtful, intentional parent are precisely the skills keeping you stuck in it the longest.