The 5 Mother Archetypes

Your Story

You're the mum who feels everything. When your child cries, your chest tightens. When your partner's stressed, you absorb it like a sponge. You probably grew up being the emotional caretaker—reading everyone's moods, making sure mum was okay, keeping the peace.

Your nervous system is like a radio that picks up every emotional frequency in the room. You can sense when someone's upset before they even know it themselves. It's a gift, but it's also exhausting.

How this shows up in motherhood:

• You can't tell where your emotions end and your children's begin
• Their meltdowns become your meltdowns
• You feel guilty for taking any time for yourself
• You're constantly worried you're not doing enough

Your Story

You were the "good girl" who learned early that your feelings were too much. Maybe you were told to "stop crying" or "don't be so sensitive." Perhaps you tried to speak up about something important and weren't believed or were dismissed.

You learned to stuff your feelings down and be what others needed you to be. Now, as a mum, your children's big emotions trigger all those buried feelings you never got to express.

How this shows up in motherhood:

• You struggle to set boundaries because saying no feels mean
• You constantly second-guess yourself and seek validation from others
• You apologise for having needs
• Your voice shakes when you try to speak up

Your Story

You're not an angry person—you're a person whose anger has been buried so deep it erupts like a volcano. Maybe anger wasn't safe in your family, or you learned that "good girls" don't get angry.

Your rage isn't random—it's years of swallowed injustices, unspoken truths, and suppressed boundaries finally demanding to be heard.

How this shows up in motherhood:

• You go from calm to explosive in seconds
• You feel terrible guilt after losing your temper
• You swing between being too permissive and too harsh
• You're angry at yourself for not being the mum you want to be

Your Story

You learned early that safety was your job. Maybe you grew up in chaos and became the responsible one, or you experienced something that taught you the world is dangerous. Your nervous system is constantly scanning for threats, even when you're safe.

You're an amazing mum in a crisis because you can handle anything. But you're exhausted from being "on" all the time, and you can't remember what peace feels like.

How this shows up in motherhood:

• You anticipate every possible problem
• You struggle to let your children be independent
• You feel guilty when you try to relax
• You're constantly worried about your children's safety

Your Story

At some point, feeling everything became too much, so your nervous system chose to feel nothing. This was brilliant protection